Re: a very task oriented pers
By: MRO to Ogg on Mon Sep 19 2022 02:58 pm
Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Mon Sep 19 2022 08:00 am
Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,
travelling, etc. That person could very well make a good
difference in your life.
i'm sure approaching someone when they are shopping is totally NOT creepy.
also traveling alone is creepy.
My aunt is a very social person. One time I flew with to a wedding in New York, and during the holdovers in between fights we'd stop in a bar and find a random person to talk to. She used to be a social worker, and could read people pretty well. She would find somethin interesting about what the person is wearing, or maybe it's their age (she liked to help keep an eye on y
oung people traveling) and talk to make time pass. Part of this might've bene done to calm her nerves, since she hated the moment before boarding the plane. The conversation was small talk, nothing giving away personal information or anything current or relevant.
Regarding shopping, talking to a person in a grocery store feels odd. In a department or specialty store, it is different because the conversation can be more specific. A good comparison is the bar, because you at least know the person has drinking or hanging out in common. I was amazed of how many women visit a gun shop or shooting range (and are single.)
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Regarding shopping, talking to a person in a grocery store
feels odd. In a department or specialty store, it is
different because the conversation can be more specific. A
good comparison is the bar, because you at least know the
person has drinking or hanging out in common. I was amazed
of how many women visit a gun shop or shooting range (and
are single.)
Re: a very task oriented pers
By: Moondog to MRO on Mon Sep 19 2022 10:15 pm
Re: a very task oriented pers
By: MRO to Ogg on Mon Sep 19 2022 02:58 pm
Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Mon Sep 19 2022 08:00 am
Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,
travelling, etc. That person could very well make a good difference in your life.
i'm sure approaching someone when they are shopping is totally NOT cre
also traveling alone is creepy.
My aunt is a very social person. One time I flew with to a wedding in N York, and during the holdovers in between fights we'd stop in a bar and f a random person to talk to. She used to be a social worker, and could re people pretty well. She would find somethin interesting about what the person is wearing, or maybe it's their age (she liked to help keep an eye oung people traveling) and talk to make time pass. Part of this might've bene done to calm her nerves, since she hated the moment before boarding plane. The conversation was small talk, nothing giving away personal information or anything current or relevant.
Regarding shopping, talking to a person in a grocery store feels odd. In department or specialty store, it is different because the conversation c be more specific. A good comparison is the bar, because you at least kno the person has drinking or hanging out in common. I was amazed of how ma women visit a gun shop or shooting range (and are single.)
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There is a difference between sparking up some friendly talk with somebody y supposed to be talking to, and trying to get a conversation started out of t Big difference.
See, if I go order a burger from the local bar, and the bar is not very busy our, and I bring some subject up with the barman as he prepares the burguer, not creepy.*
If I go to Logistics with a bulk of packages and bring some spontaneous conv with the counter guy as he labels the packages and places them in the convey that is not creepy.*
If you go to a bar and walk to a random guy and start talking about the weat is very, VERY WHAT THE FUCK.
*Asuming the conversation does not distract people from their task, obviousl
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Hello Moondog!
** On Monday 19.09.22 - 22:15, Moondog wrote to MRO:
Regarding shopping, talking to a person in a grocery store
feels odd. In a department or specialty store, it is
different because the conversation can be more specific. A
good comparison is the bar, because you at least know the
person has drinking or hanging out in common. I was amazed
of how many women visit a gun shop or shooting range (and
are single.)
Talking in a grocery store to people feels odd but not in a gun
shop? There HAS to be some extensive talking beyond personal
ID to know if the women are single. :D
My point is that ANY chance meeting anywhere can evolve into
purposeful meetings somewhere else if you let it (like a
hobbiest group that two people share interest in, or an evening
college class).
Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Tue Sep 20 2022 11:47 pm
I knew a friend who consistently failed with establishing a GF.
His modus operandi was to get a girl for a wife and have kids,
and he said that he threw that question out there early in the
dating game. And he wondered why he rarely got a 2nd date.
Well, if you are trying to sell a product, you first have to convince the bu the product is awesome, and you only talk about the price once the buyer is purchase the product (unless the product's selling point is the price itself
You sure as heck don't try to sell yourself by stating your price upfront, s if it is not a cheap price.
Girls do this all the time, on the other hand, which is a blessing, because you to kick them off the list early.
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Back in the days people placed ads in personal ads and dating sections of newspapers and dating services, some would mention they are looking for long term relationships and possible marriage to turn away others looking for random casual sex. Best advice is be honest, but avoid looking desperate and
clingy.
Re: a very task oriented pers
By: Moondog to Arelor on Wed Sep 21 2022 03:46 pm
Back in the days people placed ads in personal ads and dating sections of newspapers and dating services, some would mention they are looking for l term relationships and possible marriage to turn away others looking for random casual sex. Best advice is be honest, but avoid looking desperate clingy.
There is a paradox there.
You cannot be honest if you are desperate, because then you will inevitably are desperate and lose. You either act sly and ensure nobody sees you bleedi is a good policy in life, actually) or you stop being desperate in the first
I guess that for an actual desperate person, it is very hard to switch despe off. Desperation in general is rooted in many factors that are not easy to c is easy to tell people not to be desperate, but if the reason they are despe they lack legs and arms and cannot get a job and they are having a bad time one, that is not getting an easy fix...
Best advice is to become powerful enough so you can afford not to give a dam you know how to bake your own apple pie, the need for having somebody beside baking apple pie diminishes.
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I had to give the opportunity a pass and do some research in order to locate h
elsewhere in a better moment. I am still wondering why that girl was playing w
h her
horse so late at night.
or walking around barefoot outside with a hammer.
it could be i just am used to being up nights and i'm cleaning my
basement or i'm trying to hunt a prowler.
You're hunting a prowler with a hammer? LOL. Ever heard the phrase
"Don't bring a knife to a gunfight"? Hahahaha
You have a lot of prowlers? Is this something you do frequently? LMAO
Nightfox wrote to Gamgee <=-
or walking around barefoot outside with a hammer.
it could be i just am used to being up nights and i'm cleaning my
basement or i'm trying to hunt a prowler.
You're hunting a prowler with a hammer? LOL. Ever heard the phrase
"Don't bring a knife to a gunfight"? Hahahaha
You have a lot of prowlers? Is this something you do frequently? LMAO
Barefoot too, apparently.. No time to even put on a pair of
slippers or sandals when going outside..
I disagree about deception. If someone is lying about simple things, what other false pretenses am I getting involved with?
I had to give the opportunity a pass and do some research in order to loca elsewhere in a better moment. I am still wondering why that girl was playi h her
horse so late at night.
If I saw that around here at 3am, I would think she was either on drugs or has a mental problem (bi-polar or borderline).
Well, that way you can move around pretty much silently, ya know. You
need every advantage you can get when engaging with "prowlers" - they're very crafty. Also, hammers are much quieter than guns.
If I saw that around here at 3am, I would think she was either on drugs or has a mental problem (bi-polar or borderline).
Well, if I am having trouble sleeping or if I arrive late home, I usually chec
on the horses. Their sleep cycle is not like human's, so if you show up late they are likely to want some pats and play. I am certainly not judgemental there.
Re: a very task oriented pers
By: Moondog to MRO on Fri Sep 23 2022 10:00 am
I disagree about deception. If someone is lying about simple things, wha other false pretenses am I getting involved with?
The issue here is that, in the end of the day, you are just selling a produc (ie. You and hat you can do for the other person) and once you go into that territory, you need to hone your marketing skills.
A big bunch of dating advice out there sounds like marketing classes to me, really. You need to hype the product so it looks better than it is. It can b done without lying, but if everybody else has marketing more aggressive than your's, you are going to have bad trouble selling your product.
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Ogg wrote to Moondog <=-
Talking in a grocery store to people feels odd but not in a gun
shop? There HAS to be some extensive talking beyond personal
ID to know if the women are single. :D
Arelor wrote to Moondog <=-
A big bunch of dating advice out there sounds like marketing classes to me, really. You need to hype the product so it looks better than it is.
It can be done without lying, but if everybody else has marketing more aggressive than your's, you are going to have bad trouble selling your product.
Arelor wrote to Dumas Walker <=-
Well, if I am having trouble sleeping or if I arrive late home, I
usually check on the horses. Their sleep cycle is not like human's, so
if you show up late they are likely to want some pats and play. I am certainly not judgemental there.
Marketing (at least with regards to personal branding) is all about discovering a problem that the customer has, finding and fixing a customer's problem for a price, and picking a niche to make you the biggest player in the market - at least in the beginning.
If your target niche is "Personal Companionship for Female Babylon 5 Cosplayers", good luck.
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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Nightfox to Ogg on Mon Sep 19 2022 08:37 am
Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,
Maybe it's the area I live in, but people here generally don't talk to ot shoppers while shopping. But different activities can lend themselves to
If I tried to speak to woman while shopping I'd get the "who are you weirdo
... Have you ever asked a question you weren't supposed to ask?
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