Hello Arelor!

** On Sunday 18.09.22 - 17:39, Arelor wrote to MRO:

I find it very non-compelling to go to a place in order to
make friends. I am a very task oriented person. If I go to
a place it has to be in order to accomplish some specific
goal. If I befriend somebody doing that, it is great, but
moving my ass in order to talk randomly to people sounds so
off-putting :-(

Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,
travelling, etc. That person could very well make a good
difference in your life.

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Mon Sep 19 2022 08:00 am

Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,
travelling, etc. That person could very well make a good
difference in your life.

Maybe it's the area I live in, but people here generally don't talk to other shoppers while shopping. But different activities can lend themselves to meeting people more easily.

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Mon Sep 19 2022 08:00 am

Hello Arelor!

** On Sunday 18.09.22 - 17:39, Arelor wrote to MRO:

I find it very non-compelling to go to a place in order to
make friends. I am a very task oriented person. If I go to
a place it has to be in order to accomplish some specific
goal. If I befriend somebody doing that, it is great, but
moving my ass in order to talk randomly to people sounds so
off-putting :-(

Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,
travelling, etc. That person could very well make a good
difference in your life.

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Most people suck big time and deserve to die. I am sure as heck I am not going to
actively try to meet somebody unless it is done in order to achieve some objective.

Then you make an actual friend and he gets cancer and then COVID the same day, and the
Welfare dudes decide to collectivelly murder the guy by inaction.


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Hello Arelor!

** On Tuesday 20.09.22 - 13:16, Arelor wrote to Ogg:

Most people suck big time and deserve to die. I am sure as
heck I am not going to actively try to meet somebody unless
it is done in order to achieve some objective.

I knew a friend who consistently failed with establishing a GF.
His modus operandi was to get a girl for a wife and have kids,
and he said that he threw that question out there early in the
dating game. And he wondered why he rarely got a 2nd date.

Then you make an actual friend and he gets cancer and then
COVID the same day, and the Welfare dudes decide to
collectivelly murder the guy by inaction.

Uh-oh. Sorry if I triggered a bad memory.

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Mon Sep 19 2022 08:00 am

I find it very non-compelling to go to a place in order to
make friends. I am a very task oriented person. If I go to
a place it has to be in order to accomplish some specific
goal. If I befriend somebody doing that, it is great, but
moving my ass in order to talk randomly to people sounds so
off-putting :-(

Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,
travelling, etc. That person could very well make a good
difference in your life.

I tend to think like that too, that when I go somewhere, I should just get the task I need done as efficiently. But that doesn't work well for me, because I don't end up meeting new people. The benefit of getting things done "efficiently" doesn't outweigh the opportunity cost of potentially meeting new interesting people.

So I am trying to consciously open my mind to the possibility to meeting people, wherever I may be, but it is hard.

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Tue Sep 20 2022 11:47 pm

Uh-oh. Sorry if I triggered a bad memory.

Not a bad memory, because it is not a memory. It is happening right now.

True loyalty is, after life sustaining resources and after time, the most valuable
resource we have, and we still lose it to random bullshit the world wants to throw at
us.

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Ogg to Arelor on Tue Sep 20 2022 11:47 pm

I knew a friend who consistently failed with establishing a GF.
His modus operandi was to get a girl for a wife and have kids,
and he said that he threw that question out there early in the
dating game. And he wondered why he rarely got a 2nd date.

Well, if you are trying to sell a product, you first have to convince the buyer that
the product is awesome, and you only talk about the price once the buyer is set to
purchase the product (unless the product's selling point is the price itself).

You sure as heck don't try to sell yourself by stating your price upfront, specially
if it is not a cheap price.

Girls do this all the time, on the other hand, which is a blessing, because it allows
you to kick them off the list early.

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Re: Re: a very task oriented person
By: bex to MRO on Tue Sep 20 2022 04:41 pm

also traveling alone is creepy.

That statement is just plain silly. A lot of people travel alone, whether it's because of work, events, family. Single people travel all the time, whether by themselves or with family or friends (like a girls trip to Vegas!). Traveling alone or traveling while single can be absolutely thrilling, it's already like an adventure. Meeting someone while on an adventure? That leads to wonderful stories that a person can tell for a lifetime!

Yep. If I wanted to go somewhere but didn't have anyone to go with, I wouldn't wait around to go with someone. I want to live life, and I'd go travel alone if nobody went with me.

Nightfox

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Arelor to Ogg on Tue Sep 20 2022 01:16 pm

Most people suck big time and deserve to die. I am sure as heck I am not going to actively try to meet somebody unless it is done in order to achieve some objective.

Then you make an actual friend and he gets cancer and then COVID the same day, and the Welfare dudes decide to collectivelly murder the guy by inaction.

i can't tell if you're just trying to be edgy or something but nihilism is the real cancer friend

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Wormwood to Arelor on Thu Sep 22 2022 01:23 pm

Re: a very task oriented person
By: Arelor to Ogg on Tue Sep 20 2022 01:16 pm

Most people suck big time and deserve to die. I am sure as heck I am not going to actively try to meet somebody unless it is done in order to achieve
some objective.

Then you make an actual friend and he gets cancer and then COVID the same day, and the Welfare dudes decide to collectivelly murder the guy by inaction.

i can't tell if you're just trying to be edgy or something but nihilism is the real

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I am actully a very happy guy. People has a hard time getting that, for some reason.

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Ogg wrote to Arelor <=-

I knew a friend who consistently failed with establishing a GF.
His modus operandi was to get a girl for a wife and have kids,
and he said that he threw that question out there early in the
dating game. And he wondered why he rarely got a 2nd date.

I think that would make just about anyone flee. Lord knows I wouldn't be up
for a second date after that...


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Nightfox wrote to bex <=-

Vegas!). Traveling alone or traveling while single can be absolutely thrilling, it's already like an adventure.

Yep. If I wanted to go somewhere but didn't have anyone to go with, I wouldn't wait around to go with someone. I want to live life, and I'd
go travel alone if nobody went with me.

Word!

In my late 20s, I was lucky enough to go to Amsterdam for six weeks for
work. It was one of the best adventures of my life. I hit all the major attractions, a bunch of the minor ones, ate in what seemed like every restaurant in the city, rode through the canals on a tour boat, went out
into the harbor, spent an afternoon at the beach... I do have to say there
are bits I don't remember because of a combination of alcohol and
marijuana.

Such an adventure!

... what was I talking about again?


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bex wrote to Nightfox <=-

In my late 20s, I was lucky enough to go to Amsterdam for six weeks for work. It was one of the best adventures of my life.

I loved work travel, pre-2001. I worked for a European company based out of London, and we'd have IT all-hands meetings 4 times a year, rotating between my office in San Francisco, London, Paris and Hamburg.




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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Hustler to Nightfox on Sat Jan 07 2023 10:09 am

Maybe it's the area I live in, but people here generally don't talk to
other shoppers while shopping. But different activities can lend
themselves to

If I tried to speak to woman while shopping I'd get the "who are you weirdo" look.

Yeah, I'd probably get the same reaction here. But from what I've heard, it seems there are places where it's more common for people to talk to strangers while shopping.

Nightfox

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Re: a very task oriented person
By: Nightfox to Hustler on Mon Jan 09 2023 10:27 am

If I tried to speak to woman while shopping I'd get the "who are you weirdo" look.

Yeah, I'd probably get the same reaction here. But from what I've heard, it seems there are places where it's more common for people to talk to stranger while shopping.
Nightfox

Even if they talked to me I'd be so shocked I'd lock up like a deer in headlights. I'd be like now what do I say/do? It's sad my brain works like this. I may never get to meet "The One" with this character defect. ..sigh

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Hustler wrote to Nightfox <=-

Re: a very task oriented person
By: Nightfox to Ogg on Mon Sep 19 2022 08:37 am

Open your mind to the possibility of meeting someone
spontaneously whilst doing something else: shopping,

Maybe it's the area I live in, but people here generally don't talk to other shoppers while shopping. But different activities can lend themselves to

If I tried to speak to woman while shopping I'd get the "who are you weirdo" look.

That's why I carry gospel tracts... Well, one reason. :-)

It's much easier to start a conversation with the intent to share the
Gospel when you can had a million dollar bill. :-) And if it doesn't feel
like it's going to be able to be a conversation, then they can still
take the tract home with them.




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Re: Re: a very task oriented person
By: Jimmy Anderson to Hustler on Thu Jan 12 2023 07:23 pm

If I tried to speak to woman while shopping I'd get the "who are you weirdo" look.

That's why I carry gospel tracts... Well, one reason. :-)

It's much easier to start a conversation with the intent to share the Gospel when you can had a million dollar bill. :-) And if it doesn't feel like it's going to be able to be a conversation, then they can still
take the tract home with them.

I'm looking for a sinner for sex. Gospel talk would be a turn off for both.

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